Above is a photo of my mom and I during one of her trips to visit me. During her busy life, she makes time to spend with me.I’ll cherish the memories of this trip forever.Time is precious. All too often moms tend to say they don’t have enough time for “me time” or no time to enjoy doing those things they long to do. Well, they are right. Moms may say they don’t have time to eat properly or exercise but this is an excuse; not a solution. Like many things in life, there is an option and that is to make the time. We must make the time for our passions, interests, health and relationships. This doesn’t mean it is easy, but it can be possible with a little time management and organization. I have a sister who has eight children and she has accomplished a happy family that includes time for things she likes to do for herself.
These are some of the tips I’ve picked up on from my sister:
She wakes up earlier if even just a half an hour earlier than her children. This is her time to enjoy her coffee and plan the day, answer e-mails and read. This is very important when prepping for your day and planning schedules.
She sets out breakfast items for her kids. The older siblings have learned to help with the younger siblings in dressing them, helping them make their own lunches and chores such as taking out the trash, loading/unloading the dishwasher and preparing dinner on nights when she is busy carpooling some of the kids to their activities. Giving responsibility to your children automatically teaches them independence.
Prioritize a quiet time. This can mean nap time for the younger children and a quiet time as they get a little older. During quiet time I swear I could hear a pin drop in her house. And a few of these times there really were eight kids in her house and a dog. A pure quiet indulgence from 1:00 to 3:00 in the afternoon where my sister can nap or tend to some of her personal needs. It is important to respect the body’s need for rest. We need it to grow and be healthy. Even older kids will still have some ‘down time’ if they are home during those hours of quiet time. We all need it. Quiet time can include things such as reading, catching up on phone calls or focusing on whatever needs to get completed so you can feel at peace. Two hours of bliss! Hey…it CAN be done.
Relationships are a top priority as well. She schedules a Date Night regularly with her husband. Date nights are a must and so beneficial to your relationship. That is how it all started in the first place, right? She has a night with friends as well. She and her friends take turns and every other Friday morning they have a get together at one of their homes. This provides their kids to play together while they women get to visit.
My sister is great at enforcing a bedtime with her kids. Once her kids are in bed, she usually has an hour or so before she goes to bed. This gives her time to read, plan out the next day, visit with her husband or catch up on phone calls. If you give children an inch, they will take a mile. Bed times must be enforced. We feel much better the next day with proper sleep.
Just because you are a mom doesn’t mean you don’t need “me time”. You probably need more than anyone else! Prioritizing time for yourself and showing your children that you regularly take time to do things to nourish and value yourself while keeping a balance of meeting your own needs and everyone else’s needs is one of the most effective ways you can show this to your children. Why? Because children tend to learn best from our behavior not what we tell them.
Regardless of being a mom or not, we all must nurture ourselves. Some nurturing tips you may have recalled your own mother doing. Such as making you hot vegetable or chicken noodle soup when you were sick with a cold. You may have created your own authentic nurturing remedies as well. During times of stress or illness, these are all certainly a great time to rely on your authentic nurturing remedies but you don’t need to wait for a challenging situation to come up. Practicing regular daily nurturing remedies can keep your life in balance and when those challenging days do arrive you’ll handle them with better energy.
Some authentic nurturing remedies are listed below. You may already practice one of these or many of these. Some of the nurturing methods may be new to you and you may want to add to your own regime.
Are you a bubble bath girl? Try getting your favorite bubbles that you really love and have a few of your favorite scented candles. This is your time to unwind.
Do you love to read? Set aside from what you may need to read for for work or business and try to keep books on healing, empowerment and inspiration from various authors always on hand. Enjoy a hot cup of tea while you read and notice how this can help bring you back to your center.
Try making a good hot bowl of chicken soup when catching a cold, this can warm your body and soothe your soul.
Perhaps you prefer to pray or listen in silence for a higher power during difficult times, this can offer you inner peace and guidance.
You may find yoga stretches help bring you back to alignment.
Going for a walk in the park and admiring the beauty of nature and just being outdoors does wonders for the body, mind and soul. Take in all the beauty, indulge the senses and breathe in the surrounding smells. Enjoy a night on your deck under the stars can bring a very nurturing peaceful feeling within.
Watch some of the old fashioned romantic black and white movies such as Audrey Hepburn.
Visit museums, art exhibits, plays in the theater, musical shows, Opera and Broadway.
Nurturing yourself with sleep is one of the most therapeutic remedies for your mind, body and soul. Quality sleep is good for your physical health and your mental health. Getting optimum sleep will help you feel your best, think your best and be your best.
Getting a massage regularly can be a great preventative nurturing remedy. Regular massage sessions keep you healthy mentally and physically while providing relaxation.
Sitting in a steam room can be wonderful for sore muscles and provide an overall relaxing spa experience.
A little down time on the couch while watching the food network can offer some new and creative ideas for cooking, a new recipe to try and a nurturing new meal to enjoy.
Nurture yourself and the path you are on by writing down your goals and dreams and what steps you need to take to get there. You could choose a place in nature to ponder these thoughts. Or choose something as extravagant as an exotic destination to go to for re-evaluating new goals.
Treat your self to a pedicure and manicure. A small but simple indulgence.
Dining by yourself at an outdoor cafe or a place you enjoy can be both nurturing and therapeutic.
Depending on how creative you are in the music area try diving into music, whether it be practicing guitar or writing a song. You may sense a release and feeling of empowerment of getting those words out of your head.
Spending time with family – especially with mom is a great way to receive and give comfort, love and nurturing.
One of the best indulgence moments – chocolate. In moderation, a little dark chocolate each day has been shown to be good for your heart. The flavonoids in the chocolate act as anti-oxidants which will protect your body from aging caused by free radicals. Free radicals can cause damage that leads to heart disease. Enjoying a piece of dark chocolate can be a tasty way to nurture your heart.
Listen to what your body needs – sleep? Food? Exercise? Give it that.
Balance in life can be a challenge and something to continuously work at. Commit to making time for you and nurturing yourself regularly can bring more balance and fulfillment into your life.
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