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October 2017 Success & Fulfillment

October 1, 2017

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Everyone has their own definition of success. For some, success is seeing a certain dollar amount in their checking account. For others, success is climbing the corporate ladder or receiving a specific title for their role such as a lawyer, banker or doctor.

Unfortunately, too many people feel they are successful but lack fulfillment. Even top achievers can have a sense of accomplishment and may be very successful in their career, extremely skilled and have the desired traits for their career role,  yet, some will admit they do not feel fulfilled and that something is “missing”.

Here are some things to ask yourself as you are busy achieving that can help shed some light on being successful AND fulfilled.

Do you find you feel energized, excited and inspired while you are busy doing what you are doing, achieving your goals, even when obstacles appear? Or do you find you are constantly feeling burnt out, overwhelmed and drained?

Are you thriving? Or are you barely surviving?

Would you like to do things differently in your career or your life that would bring more meaning or purpose to you?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these, realize you are not alone. There is a solution and you really can have both success and fulfillment.

Being aware of why you are feeling like something is “missing” or lacking in your life is key. Once you are aware, then move on to creating some new and more intentional choices. Reflect on your true core values. It is important to realize if you really know yourself, your true identity, your authentic self. It is common to blur our identity with other “roles” we have in life. Most of us have roles such as our role at work, role as a parent, role as a sibling, role in our community, role as a friend. And these roles often have obligations or so called rules enforced or created by others and can often feel as if we’ve been assigned a label. It is easy to begin to define ourself to others (especially when meeting someone new) as the identity we’ve assigned to the role(s) in our life. “I’m an Advertising Executive and father of 3 grown children.”

Bring more meaning into your career. Consider bringing more of your authentic self to work. Take some time to identify your strengths, traits and interests and consider different ways to use these or express them into your work. Reflecting on your values and interests can help you in understanding what makes work meaningful to you? Consider how you can integrate your strengths and talents into your work. A friend of mine, whom I really admire, Pat Dodge does this so remarkably. She is a department clothing stylist and her compassionate personality goes way beyond the sales counter as she truly cares and helps empower her customers to ensure they have a personable and unforgettable experience. You can read more about her unique, authentic approach in her book “Retail Reality”. 

Have you ever asked yourself what success feels like? So often, we can get caught up in a cycle of achievement, the rat race and feel we get to a certain mile stone and then quickly start to go after the next, the next thinking we will finally feel that joy, happiness, etc when we “get there”. It can help to clarify why you want to get there? Why is this mile stone important to you? How do you think you will feel when you’ve reached your goal? In what ways can you begin to feel these emotions now? Waiting to experience emotions that are important to you could take a very long time. If success means feeling peaceful, joyful and secure, consider what other areas in your life can help you feel this way now? Or what smaller ways in your career can you feel these emotions now?

Lastly, try practicing gratitude. Each day, reflect on at least 3 things you are deeply grateful for. And write these down. But don’t just jot them down in your journal, truly feel the emotion of gratitude for these 3 things. I find when I consistently practice gratitude, I receive more of what I am grateful for. And this is truly a feeling of success and fulfillment.

In a previous post from last year, I wrote about feeling fulfilled in life. It is important to have both success and fulfillment. Knowing what your personal definition is of each, is key to having happiness in life, especially if there is a feeling of fulfillment and not just the obvious success symbols.

Wishing you a successful and fulfilling October!

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October 2016 Fulfillment

October 4, 2016

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It is natural to sense that once we have accomplished certain milestones in life, we will finally be living a fulfilling life. Milestones such as marriage, parenthood, homeownership, retirement. But living a fulfilling life now is important as well. In fact, not all of the major “milestones”  may not be what you really want. Perhaps some of the milestones matter more to you than other accomplishments. Everyone will have their own personal major milestones.  The more we learn, grow and evolve into our unique, authentic self the more fulfillment we will experience in life and in our relationships.

Living a deeply meaningful life and what that means, is different for everyone. There is no specific formula for living a fulfilling life. Taking some time to find that which matters most to you, is your own personal discovery, a journey. When you have clarity on what it is you want, pursue those things that matter.

Here are some tips to experience a more fulfilling life:

Be Balanced.

Create balance in your life through the areas of spirituality, mind, body, relationship and work:

  • Spirituality – this is your life purpose/life meaning, values and principals.
  • Mind – absorb new knowledge or learn a new skill
  • Body – Keep your health in check, create a wellness plan.
  • Relationship – quality time with family, friends, significant other and colleagues.
  • Work – career/job and activities you are involved in

Be Present.

Be in the moment. Accept it. Learn to love it. We need to be present with our experiences if we are to find meaning in them. I am someone who does not like to rush through my tasks, workout/exercise regimen or a conversation. I appreciate quality over quantity. I value being in the present moment and feeling content, if not all of the time, then most of the time.

Be Intentional.

Intentionally choose to make each precious moment meaningful. Find the lesson or blessing in a challenging circumstance. Appreciate the days that flow with ease. Celebrate even the minor achievements.

Be Mindful.

Living mindfully, is to seek meaning and realize we need to learn how to really experience the moment and then go deeper into ourselves, and ask questions like:

  • What is important to me?
  • What makes me fulfilled?
  • What do I want to do in my life?

At the end of the day, we are all wanting to live a fulfilling life…a life that matters. A life that gives us purpose.

Wishing you true fulfillment in life ~ Nancy

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