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Make Your First Meetings Count

November 9, 2011

A first meeting can make or break a relationship, whether it’s business or personal. Here’s how to make a good impression.

Think of all the first meetings you’ve ever had—a future employer, new friend, teacher, principal, attorney, even the owner of one of the beach city shops. Maybe you are in sales, in business for yourself or are just someone who finds it pleasant to connect with those in your community. Let’s face it—life is more fulfilling when we can make a good impression and make encounters more meaningful, significant and memorable.

First meetings offer so much to learn about someone new and what opportunity this new connection could lead to. No matter the type of first meeting, be it for business or personal, keeping an open mind, approaching with curiosity and most of all, trusting our vibes about someone new, is key in creating and building a positive long-term relationship. Sometimes we may be wrong, misjudged or have incorrect information or worse yet, we were misinformed. Certainly, certain events may happen that can change our initial prediction of how we thought a connection or relationship may develop. We learn and grow from this and we become more aware for other first meetings.

I like to meet with everyone who is referred to me or seems to be doing something relevant to my world. I’ll also meet with people I think are interesting. Many of the projects I have been involved in have come out of random meetings.

Depending on the situation, presenting ourselves the first time can be nerve-wracking or exciting. I can recall those nervous first meetings with future employers, the principal of a new school or someone’s parents.

How do you feel in a first meeting? Shy? Self-conscious? Excited? Do you find yourself comparing, searching for a connection or trying to show interest? Maybe you are purely open and approach the first meeting with simple curiosity.

Have you ever had a first meeting and found someone who was very unprepared? Or worse yet, perhaps you felt unprepared? This can cause us to become impatient. Avoid this—it’s easy to do a little work in advance to figure out the other person’s interests.

Here are some tips that will help to create a memorable meeting and a strong, business or personal connection:

  • First, determine the No. 1 thing you want to communicate with this person. Many times a first meeting may be to talk about yourself and your current activities. Most people can probably handle one—maybe two—areas of focus during a first meeting, so it’s important to lead off with the one thing you want to accomplish within the meeting. If you find you are two minutes into a meeting and still have no clue why you’re speaking with the person, politely ask, “What do you want to get out of this meeting?” This offers a simple hint: cut the chit-chat and focus. It isn’t being rude; it is being efficient, so you can make the time together useful for both of you.
  • Try not to make a first meeting an endless stream of attempts to connect with someone. For example, if you discuss the other person’s activities such as running, reading or their vacation home in Europe, make sure it’s relevant to the meeting’s topic. This especially applies to those first business meetings. Most people can focus 100 percent of their energy on you for about 15 minutes—so make those first 15 minutes count.
  • It can be helpful and effective to have one thing in your head that you think this new person can learn from you. Keep in mind that regardless of the outcome of a meeting, you can view it as a success if you learn one thing. If your meeting isn’t going anywhere after ten minutes, you may have to be subtle and announce, “Wow, I’ve got five more minutes left, I’d like to really see how we can network.” It helps, of course, if you know what you want this new person to learn from you, and it relates to what they care about.
  • Remove your ego. Share what you do—not your title, employer or financial status. It may be a shock to realize this, but for most people, your title, company name or financial status will mean very little—it’s what you do in your company and in life that makes you interesting. Start by describing the primary benefit that your work, intention or value offers to your listener, in a few punchy action words that support your true reason for meeting.

Never underestimate the power of first meetings. Within minutes, we quickly determine whether we want to spend more time building a business or personal connection with a new person. No one wants to waste his or her time, so your pre-meeting prep work will help make your next first meeting count—and it may lead to a wonderful, unexpected opportunity!

I would love to hear how you make a good first impression.

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Adjusting to Life’s Changes

October 31, 2011

As I relaxed and enjoyed my smoothie at St. Honore Bistro Caffe in Lunada Bay Plaza, I reflected on how the fall season can be so enlightening. Ever notice how the trees do not seem to hang on to their leaves but embrace the cycle of change? It is as if the trees know that newer leaves can only come about if they are first willing to let go of the old leaves. Trees simply grow; they go through one cycle after another without any resistance.

When we’re in a happy situation and life is going along smoothly, it is important to appreciate that time of joy. While we shouldn’t live in anxiety, fearing that our happiness will be pulled out from under us, knowing that everything changes will keep us from being caught off-guard. A completely unexpected change may throw us for a short time, but we soon recover because we know we can eventually adapt.

When Plan A doesn’t seem to be happening or working out right, how fast do we adapt to Plan B? I’m not referring to huge, sweeping and life-encompassing situations, but those small changes that we can learn to cope with easily.

Some people are able to organize their thoughts in ways that generate appropriate and positive actions. Adaptive abilities are necessary as changes occur within our circumstances and us. Adaptive behavior includes skills that allow us to be flexible when change occurs in our personal lives.

When we are adaptive, we react to unexpected events in creative or constructive ways. We can learn to be adaptive and refocus our mind in new directions and make choices based on the desired outcome. When we are open to change, we know it is the set of the sail that matters—not the direction of the wind.

Here are a few tips on how to adapt to change:

  • Look beneath the surface. Welcoming challenges allows you the opportunity to grow wiser and more skillful. Perhaps someone you know has successfully dealt with the same situation? Seek out a conversation with someone you trust. Even circumstances that seem most frustrating carry within them a new blessing, and when you search for the blessing, you will usually find it. This can be very enlightening.
  • Staying in the present moment can help you conquer any fear. It’s far too easy for your mind to get caught up with regrets about the past or worries about the future. I have found that when I have moments of self-doubt, I focus only on whatever I am doing at the moment. I realize this moment is all I have right now—I may as well enjoy it!
  • Try to reflect on some of the past changes you’ve gone through in your life. Include both the positive outcomes and the negative ones. Regardless of your past, it’s likely that you’ve learned an important life lesson. You may actually want to seek change. I have found that when I keep my life stagnant, I seem to lose out on many important life experiences that offer valuable life lessons.
  • Did you know that writing down your innermost thoughts provides a similar release as confiding with a close friend? Change can be scary, but if you provide yourself with a way to conquer the fear, you can find the courage within you.
  • With a willingness to find positive solutions or outcomes, try to compromise and find ways around problems or situations brought about by change. But, never just give up without proactively trying to manage the situation to your advantage.
  • When you move forward with a change in your life, think it through in a positive way. Instead of thinking about what could go wrong, picture it all going right.

Recognizing that everything eventually changes also provides some evenness to our lives. We’re not riding an emotional roller coaster of highs and lows—everything averages out in the end. We’re grateful for and appreciate the good times, but we don’t let the bad times drag us too far down. Change seems to find us one way or another, and we can learn how to go with the flow and how to let go. It may seem challenging at first, but learning how to better adapt to change can improve all aspects of our lives.

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Remember These Memory Tips

October 26, 2011

Do you ever have difficulty remembering something?  I often catch myself saying, “Don’t forget to…” Recently, I am practicing saying, “Remember to…” instead—as in, “Remember to pick up eggs on the way home.” The positive reinforcement helps my memory.

Speaking of memory, many of us keep a to-do list, which can be a great help—but what about those times when we want to recall someone’s name next time our paths cross?

I recently saw an acquaintance at Ralphs in Rancho Palos Verdes. It had been quite some time since we had seen each other. She remembered my name, but even though I rarely forget a name, I couldn’t remember hers. As we stood in line and chatted, I was hoping her name would come to mind. As luck would have it, I asked her what was new in her life, and she told me she had accepted a new job.

As we were leaving, she handed me her business card. I took advantage of the opportunity to glance down at her card as we were saying good-bye and said, “It was a pleasure to see you again, Cindy.”

As I was driving home I told myself that I would remember her name. I recalled a game I used while growing up to remember names. I have always loved music, so I would often tag a person’s name with either a catchy pop song, a famous rock star’s name or even an actress or actor. For example—when I meet someone named Jane, I recall the song “Sweet Jane.” I won’t confuse Jane with June next time I meet her.

It can help to have a visual tag with a person’s business card; the logo or seeing the person’s name spelled out can help cement a memory.

When I don’t have a business card or see the name written out and I’m meeting someone new, I will often ask how she spells her name. Cindy could spell her name a few different ways by using an I or a Y—Cyndi, Cindy or even Cindi. Once I am informed, I can mentally hold the image of her name spelled out in my mind.

The brain’s incredible ability to reshape itself holds true when it comes to learning and memory. We can enhance our ability to learn new information and improve our memory. Here are some tips:

  • The physical act of rewriting information can help imprint it onto your brain. Even if you’re a visual learner, read what you want to remember out loud. If you can recite it rhythmically, even better.
  • Focus on the new information you are hearing or reading for the first time. You can’t remember something if you never learned it, and you can’t learn something if you don’t pay enough attention to it. Some people are easily distracted. If you’re one of those people, I suggest choosing a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted.
  • Relate new information to what you already know. Connect new data to information you already remember, whether it’s new material that builds on previous knowledge or something as simple as an address of someone who lives on a street where you already know someone. For more complex material, focus on understanding basic ideas and practice explaining the ideas to someone else in your own words.
  • Review what you’ve learned the same day you learned it and in intervals thereafter. This helps retain what you’ve learned.
  • Treating your body well can enhance your ability to process and recall information. Just as an athlete relies on sleep and a nutrition-packed diet to perform his or her best, your ability to remember increases when you nurture your brain with a good diet and other healthy habits.
  • When you’re sleep deprived, your brain can’t operate at optimal levels. Creativity, problem-solving abilities and critical thinking skills are compromised. Whether you’re studying, working, or trying to juggle life’s many demands, make sleep a priority.

Whether we’re a student studying for final exams, a working professional interested in doing all we can to stay mentally sharp, or a senior looking to preserve and enhance our mind as we age, a good memory helps.

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Use Your Imagination to Solve Problems

September 18, 2011

Our imaginations may give us the ability to temporarily escape reality, but they can also help us work through thorny issues.

We all use our imagination, whether consciously or unconsciously. We use our imagination whenever we plan a home improvement project, a vacation or a project at work. Have you noticed how you use your imagination when you describe an event, give directions, write or cook? Everything that has been achieved has been brought into existence is the result of the human imagination.

Imagination is much more than simple daydreaming; in fact, it can be of great value in our lives. A developed imagination does not make you a daydreamer or procrastinator. A strong imagination strengthens your creative abilities, and is a great tool for recreating the circumstances and events you would like to see in your life.

Imagination is a creative power that is necessary for inventing and designing a dress or a building. When I was at Dion Gallery in Redondo Beach, I realized how powerful the imagination could be for many artists. An author myself, I know the imagination provides an infinite source for imaginative thoughts when writing a book. The creative power of imagination can be an important part in the achievement of success in any field. What we imagine with trust, faith and feelings comes into being.

Imagination can help us acquire knowledge through the mental formation of concepts, images and sensations. It can help us with creativity and can be a tool to serve as a response to our personal intentions. Use creative thinking to help you decide how to put together the pieces of a project. This can be especially helpful during business meetings.

On the other hand, imagination can serve as a means of escape, transporting ourselves into a special realm where we might feel very comfortable and relaxed. Children use their imagination like this when they play dress up, portray characters and mimic various scenes that they have read in fairy tales or have seen on television.

Everyone has the potential to develop a powerful, creative imagination. For some of us, it may be highly developed, and in others, it may manifest in a weaker form. Here are some tips to put into practice and grow your imagination:

  • It might be easier for some of us to see mental pictures; however, Imagination does not need to be limited to just seeing pictures in the mind. You can include all the five senses. Try to imagine a sound, taste, smell, a physical sensation, a feeling or an emotion. Training your imagination gives the ability to combine all the senses. This can be very enlightening.
  • Start thinking about writing a story or music. Keep your mind open for opportunities—new angles, plots, characters or melodies and take notes to expand the story/song over a period of time. Refine the story if you want to. When you allow yourself to take your time, new ideas will pop out of your subconscious as you think about it. Remember, this is your creation; you can do anything you want with it.
  • Look deep into any problem you face and imagine different solutions. Try new paths—don’t accept the status quo. If you fail at one task try another approach.
  • Don’t brush aside inspirational thoughts and ideas that pop into your mind. Try visualizing these ideas and plan how you will bring them into existence. Let your mind go—the sky is the limit. Always carry a small notebook or write a note into your iPhone when you have these creative, inspirational random thoughts.
  • Be curious about everything—the world is full of amazing wonders for you to learn about. Enjoy the scenery. I find that sometimes a nice run, walk or even a drive along Paseo del Mar in Palos Verdes helps me to relax, enjoy the view and opens my mind to creative solutions and new ideas. These wonders will become your source for memories and ideas that you can use when needed. Keep developing your natural interests and unique talents. Learn as much as you can about these personal interests and improvise.
  • Build upon and refine the ideas of other people. Always be on the lookout for new innovations that you can improve upon. When a new product or device is invented, consider how it might be improved. Technology becomes more user-friendly, faster and effective. This goes for any product—there is always room for improvement. Even if you’re idea seems like a crazy solution, write it down anyway. It may turn out to be a good idea.

Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind. You can use your imagination to look at any situation from a different point of view, even the past and the future. With your imagination, you can travel anywhere without any obstacles. It can make you feel free from difficulties and unpleasant circumstances. Understanding how to use your imagination effectively and putting this knowledge into practice can help you reach success, fulfillment and happiness.

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Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others

August 6, 2011

As I sat waiting at Riviera Car Wash in Redondo Beach, I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation between two men about a beautiful, shiny new Porsche. They were discussing the different features of this recent purchase and comparing it to a Porsche their mutual friend had. I sensed they both felt slightly envious of their mutual friend.

How often do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? Maybe you compare your home, clothes, income, career, accomplishments, achievements or recognition to your friends, neighbors or even complete strangers. It is natural for us to compare ourselves to others who seem to have more success in a particular area.

Nevertheless, the more we focus on what we feel we lack, the greater our insecurities will become. Measuring our lives, success, bank account or career impacts our confidence and self-esteem. Comparing someone’s strengths to our weaknesses is a sure-fire recipe for a drop in self-confidence. Frankly, it isn’t a useful way to spend our time.

Some of us experience the desire to compare ourselves with others as a minor irritation or distraction from time to time—we may, on occasion, think about the comparison, but we decide to focus our energy and thoughts on something more positive. For others, however, the need to compare may be more akin to a tiny devil sitting on our shoulder, constantly whispering words into our ear and creating a life of suffering and negativity.

Ongoing comparisons can cause anxiety, worry and doubt. Comparing does not have to be a part of your life. Once you become aware you are comparing more often than necessary, you can stop yourself and choose to focus on you. Here are some tips to minimize it from your life:

  • Remember, everyone has weak and strong points. Nobody is perfect; no one has a perfect life. Nevertheless, many people continue to build perfect images in their minds of what they should be like and what their life should be like.
  • Put the focus on you. Compare yourself with yourself. Look at where you have grown and what you have achieved. Appreciate all you have done. Notice how far you have come and what goals you are planning to do.
  • Take time each day to be thankful and grateful for what you already have—this can help minimize any envy you may be holding. Make a list in your mind or write a few things you are grateful for in your journal.
  • Instead of focusing on the competition, focus on you and what you have put into practice today that you didn’t yesterday. When we focus on improvement, we can reflect on what we did today that we don’t want to repeat tomorrow, and we can recall what we did today that was good and implement that tomorrow.
  • Feel empowered to be yourself, no matter your size, color, religion, race or gender. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Nobody but you has the power to dictate your definition of success or your beliefs. If you have forgotten the true you, take some time to find yourself again.

The more focus we can put on our unique strengths, the more fulfilling our lives will be. We all are here for our own journey. If we stop looking at life as a competition and stop constantly focusing on how we rank in comparison with others, we can become somebody and learn and create.

Everybody comes into the world the same way—we all feel, age, analyze and eventually die. Nobody is more special than another. We are all different. This journey has nothing to do with how well other people rank, what they are doing and what they have. It has everything to do with you and what you want to be and where you want to go.

Find more inspiration in my Uber Empowerment Books. Get a sneak peek at some of my Uber Empowering Quotes in this video and you will find more empowerment quotes in my books.


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Celebrate Life with Simple Pleasures

May 4, 2011

In today’s on-the-go, nonstop world, it can feel like you are constantly rushing. You may find your focus is on achieving one thing only to have to complete another goal and then quickly move onto the next thing. This can create a feeling of lack. You may find yourself asking, “Why do I feel unfulfilled when I have been actively achieving some wonderful goals?”

Take a break to celebrate and appreciate your achievements. Even the simple little joys that make up your daily life deserve to be acknowledged.

Remember to celebrate what you did accomplish—even the little steps count. I have a method I like to refer to as Success-Building Motivators. This method encourages us to celebrate all our accomplishments, no matter how small they may appear to others. Certainly, we don’t need to have big celebrations every day, but even minor challenges we overcome, such as dealing with a difficult customer, deserve recognition. Smaller accomplishments need to be acknowledged and celebrated as well as the larger goals.

Why are rewards important? Rewarding yourself for a behavior where a positive outcome follows will help you form a habit. Choosing to reward yourself throughout the goal process will help keep you on track and stick to your positive habits, core values and goals.

Celebrating along the way can help you recognize that you actually did go from “there” to “here.” Take time to acknowledge and reflect on the lessons you may have learned along the way and to commend yourself for how well you overcame obstacles to stay on your path and reach your goal. One of the most important things I tell my clients they can do is to ask themselves the following questions:

  • What authentic, true value or positive habit have I accomplished that I am proud of?
  • What were the lessons I learned along the way?
  • What were the roadblocks I overcame?
  • In what areas of my life have I grown? How have I grown?

Your answers will provide great insight to you about your focus in life; they’ll show you your personal progress and where you can improve, tweak, change and, most of all, celebrate what works in your life. Taking time to observe and honor all you’ve accomplished and acknowledge your growth along the way is part of enjoying a fulfilling life.

Here are just a few simple pleasures you can enjoy daily to celebrate the big achievements and the small joys:

  • Have a dinner party or barbecue with those who helped you and supported you, as well as those whom you wish to share with in honor of reaching your goal. Connecting with people who have supported you helps to build rewarding relationships. Share some good laughs. You may find yourself inspired to set a new challenge for yourself.
  • Take a walk in nature—a park, garden, mountains or beach—and enjoy the beauty.
  • Read by the fireplace or lounge in bed while enjoying your favorite sudoku or crossword puzzle. These activities can offer a feeling of pure contentment and fun mental stimulation.
  • Listening to the birds chirp in the morning outside the bedroom window offers a peaceful way to begin your day and offers some quiet reflection.
  • Taking a nap in a hammock under a shady tree or enjoying the warmth of the morning sun on your skin can offer replenishment for your soul and create a feeling of celebration within.
  • Reward yourself with a nice lunch at an outdoor cafe. Invite someone to join you.
  • Buy some fresh flowers at the Farmers Market for yourself or for someone you know who just completed a goal. This can be a kind gesture that makes their day—and yours.

I recently enjoyed a celebration with friends at Kincaid’s on the Redondo Beach Pier. We enjoyed several appetizers on their happy hour menu at a very reasonable price. Seeing the sunset made for a very simple, yet spectacular evening.

Celebrate every success and milestone along the way. It is important to have something to look forward to. Taking time to celebrate allows you to recognize the personal growth you’ve experienced during the goal process and you will sense more fulfillment in your life.

How do you celebrate life’s simple pleasures? Please share your comments.

Find more inspiration in my Uber Empowerment Books. Get a sneak peek at some of my Uber Empowering Quotes in this video and you will find more empowerment quotes in my books.


Reduce Negative Inner Chatter

March 22, 2011

Sometimes I wake up to an inner chatter that won’t stop. My remedy is going for a walk between “Rat Beach” and the Redondo Beach Pier. This distance seems to be the perfect length for the waves to drown out doubts within me and stoke a sense of inner peace.

Sinking my feet into the sand helps me feel grounded and aligned once again with my true self.

Where we are at in life is a direct result of our self-talk, that inner chatter we carry around with us. Self-chatter is our inner dialogue, playing out in each of our heads, every single day.

Choosing to become more aware of this allows us to squelch the negative self-chatter and replace it with positive, empowering self-talk. We must be aware of our choice of words. It’s very important.

Ever wake up with a conversation buzzing inside your head that goes something like this: “I’m so furious with myself for being late AGAIN for work. I am always running behind. I am terrible with time management. … I need to lose more weight to feel good about myself. I can’t believe I ate that huge dinner last night. What was I thinking?”

This is just the first part of your day. Imagine how the rest of your day will go.

How aware of our own self-talk are we? Accepting the fact that we are having these negative inner dialogues leads to asking if we are willing to make a change.

What good does it do to continually criticize yourself? Would you allow a stranger to talk like this to you? What about your self-esteem?

Changing your negative words into more positive, empowering phrases will take some discipline, but if you really want to make this change and have the discipline, you can make it happen. Start putting a limit on the negative words you use.

Sometimes it’s easier said than done. Awareness is key. Forming new habits takes time.

Here’s an incentive: We often treat others the way we treat ourselves. If we show ourselves more self-love, we often find the world loving us in return. Self-love is an ancient path toward peace.

Commit to an action plan. Each time you catch yourself having a negative conversation in your head, turn it around by rephrasing with more positive, empowering words. Start simple, using “when” instead of “if.”

Your self-esteem loves to hear “I am” statements. “I am successful.” “I am happy.” Avoid thinking, “I can’t,” or “I won’t.”

“I am” statements are stronger and manifest in your life faster than “I wish” or “I want” statements. Remove the thought: “I can’t do this because…” Instead, ask yourself “What if I COULD do this…” Our words can be self-defeating or they can be self-motivating. Choose to use empowering words that uplift and inspire you.


Find more inspiration in my Uber Empowerment Books. Get a sneak peek at some of my Uber Empowering Quotes in this video and you will find more empowerment quotes in my books.




Ten Elements to Integrate with Daily Experience

December 2, 2010

Developing the right mind-set can carry you beyond what you think you are capable of. Life will bring us good times and bad times. Both the good and the bad times will provide us an opportunity for personal growth in our life. The way we perceive what is happening in each situation will determine the amount of personal growth the situation can provide.

A positive attitude and self-care actions that drive you in the pursuit of personal fulfillment will give you the strength to by pass any obstacle of distractions and focus on your outcome, your results you want to see happen in your life. I have found the following Ten Elements, practiced overtime, have helped me to develop the right mind-set and achieve my Uber Self.


First, we need to have Awareness in our life that is showing us or telling us or even nagging at us that we need a change. If the word change is actually holding you back from moving forward in your life, consider using Self Improvement.


Awareness can help us with Acceptance to the idea of change and Self Improvements. How do we fully Accept that we can make a change or a Self Improvement? We can accept the way things are, for right now; remembering that nothing is permanent. We do this through accepting our selves through Self Love by making Self Care and Self Nurturing positive healthy habits in our life. When we FEEL our Best, We tend to THINK our Best and we can then BE our best and provide our best gifts and strengths to others and live our life purpose. Being in optimal balance can also help turn thoughts that are confusing into clarity – when we FEEL our Best we tend to THINK our best and DO our best and so whatever choices we make, we have a better chance at moving forward with a positive attitude.


Once we have become Aware of a change we want to make in our life and fully Accept that a change needs to be made, we can now go within and ask ourselves where are we right now, in our life –do we want to stay in the same old repetitive patterns we are so comfortable with but they are no longer showing much result or are we at a place in our life where we can become humble and be open and allow ourselves to evolve by learning something new that can help us see fresh results? If your answer is a true “yes” then you have arrived at a Willingness to grow. Willingness is allowing yourself to experience self-growth and personal development. True Willingness is all about you, that it is your idea to make a change, for yourself first. Willingness offers you a choice to make and for lasting results, it needs to be YOUR choice.


Willingness creates a strong Desire to become curious to life, to become more in tune with yourself and a Desire to develop a “knowing” that there is a higher level for you to live your life at. Desire offers seeking out, requesting for strength and courage to help you reach your goal.


Knowing you hold the Willingness and Desire within you, you now need to use Disciplineto get there. Discipline is needed and is not always easy, especially when trying to let go of daily habits that don’t serve your highest self such as too much sugar in your diet or not getting enough daily exercise, drinking too much, or working too much. Maybe you are just not allowing enough time for yourself? It can help to have a supportive friend to call or hire a personal trainer or a lifestyle coach that you will be accountable to. Often, it can help to have a new, fresh perspective on Discipline and see Disciple as Self-Love. You are then able to be “disciplined” because you love yourself enough to see the results you would like to see in your life.


When you realize you can handle being more Disciplined then you certainly canCommit to whatever it takes to reach your goal and get to this higher level that you just knowis waiting for you to discover. Commit to sticking with your lifestyle choices. Creating a personal agreement or vision statement can help motivate you to stay committed and be successful with your choices and goals in life.

Arranging for Success

You’ve made the Commitment –congratulations! (Well, almost). Now, it is crucial that you come up with a solution, a plan on how you will get there. This means Arranging for Success.  Arranging for Success means creating a solution. What action steps can you take each day, big or small, that will keep you moving toward seeing more of what you want in your life and not away from what you want to see more of in your life?

Monitor Your Actions

Once your plan is created the next element called Arranging for Success isMonitoring Your Actions. Ah-ha! Yes, you will have to watch out for yourself and become much, much more in tune, with what you are doing right each day and what you are doing wrong each day, that is either assisting in moving you forward or is holding you back, from becoming your Uber Self. You will see results by monitoring your actions through accountability –you’ll be quite surprised at what some of the small changes can make in your life and totally amazed at how even larger changes really can impact your quality of life.

Balance in Life/Happiness

Once you have Arranged for Success and have started to practice Monitoring your Actions, living a life in Balance is necessary for Happiness to be in your life. Living with inner awareness and appreciating how those simple things in life, like watching a sunset, can bring contentment and simplicity to life. Recognize that when you are in balance and harmony with all life’s situations and those around you, you can trust that everything is the way it is meant to be. Reminding yourself that where you are, today, right now on your journey, is just where you are meant to be.

These mind-set elements are effective and powerful because they allow a positive focus on life and offer a better quality of life, more fulfillment, abundance and success. Practice these mind-set elements and integrate them into your daily life and notice how you will begin to be observe rather than react to situations, challenges and obstacles. You will experience more enlightening moments and feel empowered within to face whatever life has in store for you.

You can learn more about how to integrate these ten mind-set elements into your daily life in my book Uber EmpowermentWishing you Inspirational & Empowering Moments!

Find more inspiration in my Uber Empowerment Books. Get a sneak peek at some of my Uber Empowering Quotes in this video and you will find more empowerment quotes in my books.


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